Happy Mother's Day! No seriously HAPPY mother's day. Mother's Day usually gets boiled down to some decent flowers, brunch, and a quickly scrawled card, and, well, I think we think of moms in a very mom-y way. But listen y'all, let's not forget how moms became moms in the first place. This is a mother's day gift guide of a different sort. I think being a mom is great, and celebrating all the mom-y mom things is nice, but sex is an area of a mom's life where she can shed all of that. She doesn't have to think about cutting crust off of sandwiches, or changing diapers, or her son's algebra grades in the bedroom. And hey, did you know that (conveniently) May is also Masturbation Month? So this gift guide is celebrating mom sex life. Yeah, it looks a helluva lot different now, doesn't it ladies? Postpartum sex is like a whole 'nother thing, and so sexual self care has been very important to me, especially since my healing process took for-ev-er. It's so worth cultivating a healthy and pleasurable sex life, so here is my NSFW Mother's Day gift guide. Have fun, mamas!
1. Chakrubs Sex Toy
Chakrubs are sex toys made from pure natural crystals. To be honest, walking into a sex shop and being confronted with a veritable cornucopia of differently shaped dildos and toys that do all sorts of fancy things to get you off is intimidating and overwhelming. When I came across Chakrubs I loved the simplicity of the design, and that they're created from something natural, not plastic or rubber or silicone. While I'm all for a good vibrator or what have you, I much prefer the simplicity of the Chakrubs.
2. Insane Stimulating Personal Moisturizer
I've never been very into lube, but it's super recommended to postpartum mamas due to the low personal lubricant production caused by the drop in hormones after giving birth. So I've been looking around for something a little more fun than your standard lube and have seen some good reviews on this! I think I'll try a sample before splurging on the full bottle, but they've got tons of sample packs to try, so that could be a fun activity! Test all the lubezzzz.
3. Herbivore Jasmine Body Oil
I believe that sensuality is a holistic pursuit and that means treating your body with love, even if you aren't actively pursuing a climax. A delicious body oil like Herbivore's Jasmine body oil can be a lovely way to love on your body by slowly rubbing it into your skin post-shower, or you can have your partner give you some foreplay action by using it as a luxurious massage oil.
4. Unbound Box Subscription
I will be the first to admit that I kind of hate subscription boxes. Not because I dislike the concept or the products that are in them, mostly because I feel like a lot of the time I'm ending up getting stuff I don't need sent to me every month. Like, I like makeup, but am I really going to go through enough make up that I need a box full of new products every month? The thought of all the *stuff* cluttering up my house stresses me out. But when I heard about these Unbound Boxes, I was intrigued. Not only are they not monthly, they're quarterly, but I can totally get behind getting new fun lubes, toys, and other sexy goodies to try. Plus, I'm pretty sure that with the subscription only coming quarterly, I'd forget about it and then it'd be a very exciting surprise in the mail!
5. She Comes First- The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
This book was recommended to me by a gal who does work in marriage and sex therapy years ago and I keep meaning to pick it up! Heck, you could save this one as a Father's Day gift as a gift to yourself disguised as a gift for him, muahahah.
6. Pleasure-Proof Lipstick
Having your lipstick get all over your face when you're making out with your lover is super lame. But not getting to wear pretty lipstick out on dates is also lame. When I first discovered LipSense I was skeptical, I was used to taking my lipstick and lip brush with me out on dates so I could run to the bathroom after a few drinks and re-apply. But this stuff seriously does not budge. So, yah, you can shove your face into that pillow as hard as you want, your lipstick won't ruin it anymore.
And if you're looking for some Sexual Liberation inspiration and guidance, head over to Sex Love Liberation, an amazing blog run by the gorgeous Ev'yan Whitney, and check out her podcast The Sexually Liberated Woman too! I hope you have a sensual Mother's Day, ladies! (even if you're not a mom!). You can have brunch too. Brunch is totally foreplay.